See and Be The Light

Greetings lovely one,

What does it mean to see and be the light? Over the years I’ve thought a lot about – and will probably spend my life contemplating – this question, and attempting to live out whatever comes up as answers. But I’ve learned that I look at the question in many different ways, according to where I happened to be in life. 

I’ve taken a dead-end approach that was against making “the light” this catch-all term for a form of spiritual escapism. And so my questions weren’t trying to find a definition to live by, but rather a process of eliminating a laundry list of issues I struggled to let go of. I had no interest in “light and love” associated with victimization, turning cheeks, or being a doormat. 

I’ve also taken a metaphorical approach, trying hard to ignore the implications of light meaning “good” and dark meaning “bad.” So I’ve embraced sharing quotes like “Give light and people will find the way” (Ella Baker), or “Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light” (Dr. Brene Brown). Heck, I still sometimes find myself humming songs from my childhood church memories: “Jesus is the Light, Light of The World! He’s the road out of darkness, the brightest way out!” Even still, those implications are bothersome ones I haven’t been able to reconcile yet. 

In 2016 when I first started attending worship gatherings with Friends, I was introduced to the phrase “Holding you in the Light” and I remember thinking, “Why don’t you just say ‘I’ll be praying for you’?” Since that time, I’ve read articles, minutes from committee meetings, faith and practice books, and listened to podcasts about the “Inward Light” concept of Friends. I concluded that I was overthinking this. According to Britannica, the most basic breakdown of the theme is a way of saying a "direct inward apprehension of God” as in perception/grasping/understanding/experience. And I decided that I’d just say “Love” since that was one of the names for God that matched my direct experience. 

So, I was left to ponder how to see through the lens of eyeglass-bound eyes “that of God” in not only myself – which was hard enough – but also in people who intentionally and without reservation commit atrocious acts toward others. Even more a challenge is being a co-creator of life-giving fruit of a Spirit of Love. And while I contemplate and reflect, life dances and invites me to move. And I realize that I must live the lessons I learn in the moment. Each moment at a time. Each encounter at a time. I typically find myself at a choice I need to make … and I always make a choice, because choosing not to do anything at all is yet another choice made. And I’m reminded of this quote by Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.: “I soon realized that there were two ways in which I could respond to my situation – either to react with bitterness or seek to transform the suffering into a creative force. I decided to follow the latter course.” 

With some variation and adaptation to the circumstance, that’s what seeing light and being light has come to mean to me. Ways to respond to the rhythm of metamorphosis that gives birth to more birth and rebirths. Ways to consent to an invitation to bring sustenance to our shared experience of breathing air and earth dwelling. Ways to embrace ubuntu: “I am because we are.” 

Peace, Love, and Wellness,


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